Dawn At Your Service’s Blog

Better Days

Originally Written: September 25, 2008

All changes in life are challenging. I always feel a sense of detachment when closing one door and opening another. These feelings result in my inability to see the bright side in newer situations. For some reason, if it isn’t some drastic accomplishment, I tend to notice the losses first rather than the gains.

While I worked my previous full time job, I worked third shift. Perhaps it would have been tolerable if my significant other didn’t work a job with crazy erratic hours as well. Often the kids were bounced from sitter to sitter. Several nights a week they had to sleep over at one of their grandmothers’ homes. It really hurt to put my kids through that, especially my oldest who had to go to school all day.

I took the negative and turned it into something positive by working hard towards building a VA (Virtual Assistant) business so I could put an end to the insanity once and for all. The adjustment has been very emotional and I’ve experienced disappointment. But I focused on the the things I lost rather than the things I accomplished.

I have finally begun to see the light. Yes, Barney may “babysit” a few hours each day, but my kids are at home every night sleeping in their own beds. They are getting adequate sleep and not being bounced around all over the place. My oldest daughter now has the ability to participate in the extracurricular activities she’s been wanting to do because I’m here to provide the transportation. I get to enjoy three meals a day with my little one. I give her all of her baths and change all of her diapers. I’m finally a full time mom. There is no better job in the world. There is no price tag on happiness and being here with them brings me all of the joy in the world. I wish I could freeze these moments.

Perhaps it’s human nature to initially focus on the negative during major life transitions, or maybe it’s just me. But I’m happy to have finally seen the light and feel the gratitude for the changes I have created for MY life! 🙂

November 7, 2008 Posted by | Work From Home | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The WAH Transition Disappointment

Originally Written: September 18, 2008

I’ve been waiting so long for the day to come where I could finally run my Virtual Assistance business full time from home. It’s been approximately one week and I’ve encountered so many disappointments. The laundry never got done. The floors never got washed. And worst of all, rather than my wonderful (ex)babysitter playing patty cake and blowing bubbles with my 18 month old all day, Barney and Elmo have taken her spot while mommy is glued to the computer screen.

I know it’s only the first week and getting a routine going takes awhile. It’s wonderful not to have to wake my kids up from a cozy sleep to bring them to sitters through rain, snow and sleet. Only I question how to be the best mom I can be and run a successful business full time. MUIB Founder Jenn Rogers wrote a great article, “The Grass Sometimes Seems Greener on the Other Side” that really touches on the pros and cons of working from home.

It was wonderful to have breakfast, lunch and dinner with the girls. It was heartwarming to be there when they awoke, and went to bed. I took breaks often to cuddle on the floor, color or go for a walk. But I find a majority of the day I am working and the baby is watching t.v. I feel very guilty. We just can’t win as moms, can we?

November 7, 2008 Posted by | Work From Home | , , , , , , | 1 Comment